Tuesday, April 3, 2018

The Death of Phone Calls: A Lucid Explanation

In the past 10 years, our nation has seen an alarming decline in telephone calls.

A recent poll of seven customers waiting in the express line at a local Publix, one of whom had over 10 items, revealed that zero out of seven Americans enjoy communicating via telephone. 

Six out of seven haven't initiated a call to friends or family since November 8, 2016.

Why, then, have telephone calls gone the way of Western Union, dit, da dit, da dit?

Communication scholars still aren't sure, but by merely referencing anecdotal evidence, I think I can shed some light on this quandarious riddle of a baffling enigma.

First, some people, even old ones, have never enjoyed talking on the telephone. 

For the first 13 years of my life, I didn't enjoy telephone conversations because we didn't have one, my dad apparently holding off till the technology had been perfected, and while we waited, my cousins became the first people in their neighborhood to have a "phone," as they casually called it.

 "Phone"! Oh, already an endearing informal nickname for your new toy!

When we heard about their ascent into the future, we dropped by their house without even calling.

Their entire family -- mom, dad, two pre-school daughters, a gangling and acne'd 12-year-old boy, and a sulking 18-year-old girl who eventually ran a fertilizer plant  -- all guided us into the kitchen, and we gathered there to stare at the magical voice-sender as if it were the Holy Grail, a dull, heavy, black Holy Grail with a stubborn dial.

We weren't allowed to touch it -- it was just that holy!

Anyway, once we finally got a phone, 973-4689, I didn't enjoy it because we were on a party line, which meant old women often five or six miles away would shout at me to get off the phone when I was in the process of spinning out lyrically romantic lines to my girl friend, as I have recorded in a previous post. (Also, my girl friend's mother always answered the phone, and she scared the living daylights out of me.)
For girls only

So I was waaay out in front of the No More Phone Calls movement.

Phone calls disappoint me for many reasons. They pretend to bring speaker and listener together, obliterating all the roads, rivers, bridges, boats and ducks between the two, creating a warm, intimate atmosphere, like that inaugural event in 1876 when Alexander Graham Bell spoke those historic words into a receiver, "Mr. Livingston, I presume?" 

But we're not brought together, at least I'm not. "How nice to hear your voice again" is a lie. It isn't "your voice." It's a pretend voice emanating from a labyrinth, a snake pit of coils, wires, cables, mega or non-mega bytes and pixels and a galaxy of satellites and carrier pigeons!

And the communication is partial at best. Even non-Italians use gestures, pointing, shrugs and slouches, eye-rolls, winks, head shakes and nods to complement, clarify, annotate and toneify their language. 

Without this nonverbal glossing, misinterpretation is inevitable, misinterpretations that typically lead to breakups, divorces, broken friendships, anxiety, depression, migraines, insomnia, and the occasional homicide.

I've even seen people flip off the person with whom they were speaking! Cowards!
What a phone call looks like

Phone calls also misrepresent a person's appearance. As you talk, you gradually compose an image of the other party formed by images retrieved from recent visits and flawed memory, then garnished with the fake voice. I can assure you that's not what the person looks like.

By the end of your conversation, you grow weary of looking at that face which exists only in your weak imagination. 

Phone calls are made even more irritable when your receiver/partner resents your doing other tasks while you're talking: "Hey! Are you washing dishes now? Do I not deserve your full attention?!" And forget about mowing your lawn!

This makes talking on the phone similar to being stuck in traffic: You're alive and breathing, but why?

I'll share a few things I've done to make time move more quickly while imprisoned by a call, and here's where I hope my ribald friend Karl Isberg isn't reading this. If he leaves a comment below, in the name of all that's holy, don't read it! You'll be scarred for life, trust me.

I once tried to calculate -- while keeping up my end of an endless conversation -- what LeBron James's annual income would be if he depended solely on the interest rate of a checking account, you know, if he kept all his money in that account. The rate would only be about 0.05%, but he has so much money . . .  well, I never figured it out, but it ate up some time.

I once googled the entire pitching staff of the 1961 Cincinnati Reds.

I once googled every 19th-century POTUS's height and weight. 

I googled the difference between ping-pong and table tennis, pool and billiards, hot dogs and weenies, tortuous and torturous.

Anyway, the real question here is, "Why are people making fewer phone calls these days?" 

Didn't I already say, "Communication scholars still aren't sure."


  1. A couple of things: (1) You really were late to Ma Bell; you folks had an exchange. My family’s number was 612-R. (2) Is it any wonder that FaceTime hasn’t really taken off? (3) Where’s Karl’s comment? —I was counting on scurrilous! Seriously, I really enjoyed this, Roy, and appreciate your normalizing my phone aversion (I spent a lifetime waiting for texting). bhc

  2. Karl would say, "I think I know what you were doing, Starling." Sorry I had to say it for him.